While reading SMH today, I came across an article “Living in sin – and filtering true love”. This article appears to promote de-facto relationship (“cohabitation”) as a means of a quest to find the most suitable partner. It made a remark that in the past, such a lifestyle is judged as a sin but today it is considered a norm. I think such attitude is already a sin. See, God has decided what is sin and what is not. But our society (humanity in general) “squeezes” sin’s territory such that what is sin according to God is deemed as not sin to society.
There is an interesting figure from the article which is used to promote such cohabitation.
In the 70s, 68% of couples living together will get married within 5 years. In the 90s, the proportion drops 40%.
In the 70s, only 28% of men and 22% of women have split up in their defacto relationshpis. In the 90s, the number have gone up to 36% and 40% for men and women respectively.
Do I miss something here? The numbers clearly show decreasing number of couples engaged in a committed relationship. And there are more men and women who perhaps tend to be more “choosy” in the relationship and lack contendment. Here is the quotation that follows those figures: “More people may be entering the relationship with the intention of it only being short-term.”
I think this view is so much biased towards couple-based only relationship while it is against family-based relationship. Why? Suppose short-term man-woman cohabitation works. Well, is there such thing as “short-term” family? Would children be agreed to have “short-term” dad or “short-term” mum?
Sure, the article mentions children or family. It states almost 27% (over 1 in 4) children come from single-parent family. But there is no mention on the impact of such parenthood upon the children, not even a small clue.
Here is a rock to hit two birds, a critic on the society’s acceptance on cohabitation and the media bias report towards the norm in the society.
In the nutshell, the two are manifestations of our inward selfish act from which we should repent from daily.
